just some words

Okay well, I will continue to just play with the blog when it gets to serious. Like this is a life coaching blog or this is a poetry blog i sit and stare at the blank screen. Type erase and type again. I love to misspell. I love to do exactly what I want. I wonder about love and how lucky i am i to be single and know that my life's lesson is partnering. That finally, I am happy alone. I see the possiblity. And that being connected together... Yup it brings a smile to my face. I can and will. I thought the lesson was to be okay being single. But aparently that was not it. It wasn't that hard anyway.

The next steps for me are to stop being controlling of other people.
I want to talk in the postive. There is something off about my heart. It is not quite open.

I will get back to living the life.

What do you want more of?

I have it a new tool for a shy guy.

So it takes me a minute to settle into a conversation even though I love connecting with people.  The tool is this: ask people about themselves.

Sample Dialogue:

Betty: What is life coaching anyway?

Sean:  Coaching helps people be more effective in their relationships, careers or spirituality. Can I ask you a question?

Betty: Sure, but i don't really understand the coaching thing.

Sean: What do you want more of in your life?

Betty: I want more money, more love, more happiness. I want more free time to do the things that I love.  Actually, I want more free time to find out what it is that I love. 

Sean: That's great.  Can you tell me about some of the things that you love?

Betty:  I love running.  It is not always fun.  So maybe I love how It makes me feel.  How I am calm and focused during the day.  I love talking with my mom on the phone.  I love going out to eat.  I love sunsets and pina coladas. I love dancing and feeling sexy. I love political debates.

Sean:  It is exciting to just hear you talking about your passions.  How much of your self do you devote to these loves?

Betty: I can't really say.  I probably am able to squeeze in a run 3 days a week.  But it has months since I went out dancing or enjoyed a sunset.

Sean: I know you probably need to get back to work.  But I have very much enjoyed our conversation.  I would like to offer you a free sample session.  Can I get your contact information?  In the coaching session we will discuss what is holding you back, and strategies for moving you forward.  My favorite part about the coaching model is that it provides an accountability partner.  Thank you Betty.  It has been great talking with you.

Betty:  (handing me her card)  Thank you Sean.  It was nice to meet you.  I think I will make time for a run after work today... 

Thank you to everyone who has given me this advice.  The anxiety is a little flag signaling a fork in the road.  Instead of talking about coaching, I will do more coaching.  Having people talk about themselves allows me to relax and connect.  

I did it!

(Disclaimer: my spirit does not care for ridgid spelling or grammer rules.)



I seem to be attracted this ackward interaction with people around life coaching.

How is that going?

Are you making any money?



They don't mean to sound hostile. But, it shakes my confidence. Why don't I have a script? Why can't I prove that This is a good idea? I sputter and sound a little short of intellegent. The interaction exhaustes me.



I sense a threat (I use that term very loosly) before they open their mouths. Oh no they are going to ask about my business. About my baby who is not feeling well right now. Who is mis behaving in school. Should I lie? I can't lie. And I am praying that they stop looking at me. That I will find the words to silence their critic who is aggitating my critic.



What i want is to pray for the ability to speak from my heart. What I want is an open heart. I don't want to have to play games. At the sixth sensory workshop, Sonia called it a devotion. But the more I would talk about my devotion the further away I felt form it. It is between me and God.



So How do i talk to these people?

How do i keep my heart open

Hi... I am scared to start.